This week I can relate to the chapter a little more than usual. This is because I had a fight with my boyfriend this week, and I found that both of us were Rationalizing to prove each other wrong. I never realized that by doing this, we are actually enabling a defense mechanism. Rationalization is when we unconsciously generate self-justifying explanations to hide from ourselves and the real reasons for our actions.
It turns out that when you rationalize, you aren't really getting to the true point of the problem, and it wasn't helping either of us. Once we realized that we were just wasting time fighting, we realized that all of the "rationalizing" we were doing, ended up just basically being excuses. Personally I think this could be one of the most common defense mechanisms, because I know that everyone at one point or another has made an excuse for why they do/ did something. I'm not saying that it's right, (because it's not really helping anything anyways) but it's what happens. I think it's easier just to make an excuse than to figure out the real reason why something is happening. But trust me, in the end, getting to the point right away is definitely the way to go!
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I agree!! We do use rationalization a lot. It's ironic how the DEFENSE mechanisms are supposed to be defending us from hurt, but it's really just hurting our relationships, causing even more emotional hurt.
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